Today I’m delighted to be the host for Day Six of the Virtual Blog Tour for Healing the Inner Child organized by Jackie Stewart at www.flowerspirit.co.uk.
This tour is to celebrate the launch of the Inner Child Meditation Kit which Jackie has created so you can let go of childhood wounds to experience more joy, empowerment and fulfillment.
Yesterday the tour visited Luitha K Tamaya at www.lktamaya.co.uk. Today I’m sharing a letter I wrote to help heal my inner child. This is what my inner child needed to know.
Inner child letter
Dearest little one,
There are many things I wish I had been able to tell you when you were younger. I know you felt sad and voiceless about your parent’s separation. You loved them both, but by leaving one behind you felt somehow you had betrayed your father. You felt you should feel the same way as your mother though you didn’t deep inside. You knew they were not getting along but you didn’t know that this did not have to do with you.
I’m here to tell you it’s okay that you still loved your daddy though you were angry with him too. It’s okay for you to love your mommy and feel resentment towards her as well. You are allowed to have many mixed-up feelings. You are a child, what goes on between the adults is their stuff, not yours. I know you wanted to make things better. You wanted things to be “normal”. You felt somehow they weren’t anymore. You strived to be the good girl: obedient doing as you were told. Not rocking the boat. You were worried about making things worse.
I’m here to tell you it’s okay. Whatever you are feeling is ok. You are entitled to your own feelings they don’t have to be the same as others. You have permission to be angry, happy, sad, excited, resentful, frustrated, detached, engaged, anything you feel like. You have the right to change your mind about these feelings at anytime. You don’t need to be stuck in any of these feelings; they can come and go as you please like the ebbs and flows of an ocean or a river.
You have permission to be a child, to play even when the adults are serious. It does not make you a bad person. You do not need to compensate or make up for having these feelings by trying to do the right thing all the time. You do not need to be right or good all the time. Life is meant to be experienced. Children are meant to experiment and learn about the world around them. Mistakes will happen. That’s ok. children learn this way.
What I really want to tell you is that it is okay for you to be your own unique person with your own thoughts, opinions and feelings.
You are allowed to be you.
Lots of love,
Your adult self
I hope you feel inspired to try this letter writing process yourself, as it is a very powerful exercise. Jackie’s soothing meditation is a beautiful accompaniment to to this process as she creates a safe place to begin healing. Click here to discover if your inner child needs healing and purchase the Inner Child Meditation Kit for instant download.